I’ve been at this local church ministry thing for quite a few years. It’s been a long time since I was a full time seminary student. They can’t teach everything in seminary, but here are 10 things that I don’t recall hearing, or at least being emphasized — some positive aspects of ministry…and some others. Not making any claim these are especially insightful or the most important ten things.
1. It’s your job. — Seminaries like to talk about ‘ministry’ and ‘calling.’ It’s rarely if ever called a ‘job’ like other people have. But it is. People disagree about exactly what we’re supposed to do, but most of us get paid monetary compensation. There’s work to be done, and it’s work. It’s a job as well as a ministry and calling.
2. Local Church pastors are tremendously privileged to be welcomed into the lives of people at important transitions. There aren’t too many professions in which a person is privileged to be involved with people at such important times of their lives — the birth of a child, a marriage, a health crisis, a baptism, at the death of a loved one, and other occasions. I never take this privilege for granted.
3. In every church a pastor serves there will be some people who aren’t going to like her/him. Hopefully not too many, but a pastor is just not going to make a personal connection with every church member, and a few people overtly are going to dislike you. Accept it. Go on.
4. Celebrate small changes and improvements in the church, and personal growth in people. If you ever wonder why it’s so difficult to see change happen in a church, look no further than seeing yourself in the mirror. Many if not most existing congregations with a history already have a long-standing culture nearly impossible to change. Okay, maybe only extremely difficult. Doesn’t mean we don’t try and can’t make a difference, but what some church people say out loud is true: “Pastor, we were here before you arrived and we’ll still be here after you’re gone.’
5. The ‘rules’ laid out in seminary for the necessary time in sermon preparation are ridiculous. When I was in seminary, I was taught ‘two hours of study for every minute of preaching.’ Maybe the professor didn’t mean it literally. I’ve heard more recently from someone out of seminary it was one hour for every minute of preaching. Give me a break. There’s no way I have time to do that and still have a life…even if I only preached for 12 minutes (which I don’t most weeks).
6. Leave the counseling to counselors. I took a TON of pastoral counseling classes in seminary, and more than a few continuing education seminars since then, but I’m not a counselor. I can help people in a time of crisis. I can tell (at this point) most of the time when someone needs more help than I can provide. I have some insight into relationship dynamics. But I’m not fully trained or have experience as a counselor, and counseling a person more than 2 or 3 times takes more time than I have, if I’m going to minister to as many people in and beyond the church as I need to.
7. Not every sermon is going to be a ‘winner.’ I hate sports analogies. But they’re used because they are true sometimes. A pastor of most local churches (unless in a specific staff role) gets up to preach maybe 40-46 times a year. Not every one of them is going to be a ‘home run,’ or even a ‘single.’ Preach it, and go on to the next thing.
8. Some sermon(s) will change people’s lives, by the grace of God. And it may have less to do with you than you would like to believe. In my own tradition, the Methodist movement’s leader John Wesley felt his heart ‘strangely warmed’ when someone was READING Martin Luther’s Preface to the Book of Romans! Have you ever come across it or tried to read it?! But that’s what God used. It’s a wonderful, mystical privilege to be present when that happens through one of the sermons you preach.
9. It’s not hard to get discouraged, or even bitter in ministry…if you let it happen. Many years ago in my tradition in Iowa when pastors retired they were given the opportunity to address the state-wide gathering. Some of the comments were painful to listen to. There were hurt, bitter pastors. They weren’t the majority, but it happened. (Maybe that’s why the practice stopped.) But it’s also possible to CHOOSE not to let that happen. Fortunately, I’ve known many retired pastors who I’m sure sometimes went through painful situations, but they never lost sight of the positive memories and experiences. If/When that time comes for me to retire, God willing, that’s the kind of pastor I want to be.
10. There’s life outside the church. That’s true ON the job and off the job as well. It’s easy to fall into the ‘captivity of the clergy’ and spend most of your time with church people and on church programming and administrative matters. Big mistake. Get out of the office and church building. Spend some time with people beyond your church, and people who don’t go to any church. Most of them are pretty decent people. And then throughout most of my ministry there’s been a spoken or unspoken expectation that a pastor will take a single day off each week — as long as it doesn’t interfere with something that’s important to someone else in the church. But there’s life beyond the job — even in local church ministry. A pastor is rarely encouraged to take more time off. Or if she or he IS encouraged to do it, some people don’t really mean it. Do it anyway, and don’t expect to be praised for doing it. But also like your parishioners, find some ways to volunteer that you enjoy, in places other than the local church–and don’t try to pretend it’s just part of your job time.